Introducing bdsm into marriage

The other day, a 38 year old husband and father of three asked me how to convince his devoutly Christian wife to explore the world of BDSM. For many couples, mainstream BDSM can add flavor to vanilla sex. I do not allow myself to look at phone, social media or email while working in the other areas. Dear Curious In The Carolinas, To convince your wife to engage in extreme sexual practices, you must first make extreme changes to your behavior, environment and routine. While you don't need a dungeon to dabble in BDSM, you should eroticize your bedroom. Take the dessert and one candle to the bedroom.

When you first discover the kinky world of BDSM, it is easy to act like a kid in a candy shop. Discovering the psychology behind your desires and discovering how others play can also help you to grow. It shifts the definition of roles within a partnership from this is what society thinks we should be to this is what we think we should be. This is especially true for spanking implements and any other item designed for sensory play nipple clamps, pinwheels etc.

I really don't know how to go on with this. Now you know what BDSM is, but how do you explore your own kinks? It is important to choose a gesture that will be noticed, as it is easy to become distracted during a scene. Or if you feel comfortable enough, I would just talk to your partner — and recommend starting out small. Leave your comments below.

Any suggestions or hints? A recent study in the journal Psychology of Consciousness: I focus on one area and one area only for 10 minutes at a time, always setting a timer before I begin. Flow is a psychological state described as: Follow Debra Macleod on Twitter: Now you know what kink is and that is has benefits. That's not a bad thing, unless fourteen hundred of those have been in the same place, in the same positions and with the same twists, turns and tweaks.